#117 Susan Bratton – Up Your Intimacy

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Meet Susan:

Susan Bratton is a famous trusted relationship expert with a very large following. She has a fantastic personality, a warm voice, and intriguing expertise. She has done hundreds of captivating podcast episodes. Her knowledge across romance, relationships, libido, desire, arousal, sexual biohacking, masculine|feminine polarity, regenerative medicine, orgasmic potential, and passionate lovemaking cover a vast surface area.

Show Notes:

ABOUT SUSAN

• I am a California woman
• I am the CEO of my two companies that are both on wellness
• I publish passionate love-making techniques and bedroom communication skills online, programs and books
• Our work in my one company is to transform having sex into making love
• What we focus on is heart connected, emotionally connected, love-making techniques for couples who want to have their sex life keep getting better over time instead of swirling down the toilet
• Sex is good for you, it’s healthy, it keeps us young. It is such a great part of our health but we need people who can help us to keep it spicy, keep it fun and understands that women’s libido is very different than men’s and how the two can meet in the middle and have great, quality, satisfying intimate connection
• My other company is a supplement company because I am about holistic, regenerative, natural health
• I really love things that don’t require you on pharmaceuticals
• So, I really like to give people all the best healthy things that they can do that are oriented toward their sexuality
• I have this supplement company with a libido vitamin and a product that is a supplement for blood flow
• You need blood flow for your brain, heart, and all your parts. And for women, we lose lubrication and for men, they lose their erectile rigidity and blood flow is the answer and I only have the organic blood flow supplement in the world made from fruits and vegetables
  
• As we age, hyaluronic acid is also very good
• I have a protocol and I call it my “skinspiration protocol”
• Every day, I take a tablespoon of cod liver oil because you need healthy fats and half of the avocado a day and a couple of nut doesn’t go to get you there
• I also take two different kinds of hyaluronic acid. I take a high molecular weight and a low molecular weight
• The high molecular weight is good for your joint because it keeps them lubricated
• Low molecular weight is very good for topical and taking in the mouth and that’s very good for intracellular hydration
• The hyaluronic acid is what the body uses to hold the moisture on your cells
• As you turn 40, all your hormones start to go down
• I think the idea of putting topical stuff is great, but you have to hydrate from the inside out
  
• It’s really important to model a good sexual relationship in front of your children
• What I mean by modeling a good sexual relationship is, if he hears your making love, it lets him know that his parents still find each other attractive
• Even if his initial hit is finding it disgusting, which is what kids natural reaction is especially with the teens and early 20’s – they are individuating
• It is not your fault or theirs, it is actually the process of developing his own personality
• If a kid hears you making love, it would let them know that sex is natural, good and done by loving people
• What I hear most people to me, they’re upset when they come from a family when no one touched anybody, no one talked, no one kissed, no one showed or modeled any signs of physical affection
  
• The seduction strategy with me is to just simply start touching my body and rubbing me without any expectation what is going to end up
• Estrogen makes us women really out of our heads and it’s hard for us to just stop thinking everything else
• We are so hormonally is cyclical even after menopause that sometimes we want but sometimes we don’t
• What we really need is our man to just, “I got the bedroom ready, candles are lit, and I got nice music playing. I’ll meet you there in 10 minutes”
• And so, like he makes me do it and I think for a lot of women, they want their man to be like, “we’re doing this now”
• Because we can’t stop doing a million things we are doing
• There are few women who don’t like their partners to be like that
• That is what we need and that’s actually what I teach men to do
• If we teach our husband to do those things and so, there isn’t going to be any rejection if he doesn’t expect sex
• They have to stop doing something nice just to get sex from us (women)
• If he’s just doing it for sex, then we won’t do it
• If he does those things, you will start having more sex
• The more sex you have, the more sex you want as a woman
• Having not just sex, but what I like to call, erotic playdates
• So many couples don’t have the sex they both want, so they should have an erotic playdate
• There are a million things you can make up for erotic playdates
• Women need a lot of fun and slow warm-up
• For our male partner, they really need their Lingham pleasured a lot – just touch
• Think an about the bullseye and he wants you to touch the center right away, you want him to start on the outside circles and work his way in overtime slowly – that’s the difference between masculine and feminine
• A lot of times, we don’t touch him right away because we’re not turned on yet and he doesn’t get the amount of touch that he craves from us

OTHER WAYS TO INCREASE YOUR LIBIDO

• For many people – all gender, hormonal replacement therapy is very effective. It’s not just for libido, but also for cognitive functions, neuroprotective against Alzheimer’s, cardiovascular protective
• Bioidentical hormone replacement therapy well-tuned to the individual and a person will love it
• You want to essentially have estradiol and estriol so that it pushes down estrone
• I also take testosterone which is bio-identical and in both case, those are compounded in shea buttercream that I put intravaginally every day and I also take oxytocin in a gel intravaginally
• Oxytocin is very good hormone that’s released when couples touched skin to skin
• They call it the love bonding hormone of the love chemical
• So that can increase your feeling of safety which is really nice and it also can help fluff up the vaginal mucosa again
• Testosterone is the molecule of the drive including sex drive
• Both men and women have it, but men have it more because women have estrogen
• Having testosterone as a middle-aged and older woman keeps us not only interested in sex but interested in life. It is a vitality, it’s what gives you balls
• For us women, having more testosterone will make us feel confident, more able to deal with life
• The 3rd piece of hormone replacement that you need is progesterone and progesterone balances the estrogen
• The estrogen and progesterone work together to balance together
• I want people to know it takes a little tweaking
• The woman that I like is Maria Claps
• She does all her hormone replacement works remotely, but she is not a doctor
• She helps you navigate and educates you on how to do your own hormone replacement
• The blood flow supplement that I sell helps move your hormones around in your body so your brain is signaling from hormone release and it is able to tell how much hormone you have in your body
• The vitamins that I have has boran in it and it is a mineral that you can’t make yourself in your body
  
• Hormones are a part making you a libido, but not all
• Blood flow is as important as anything
• If you do not have blood flow in your genitals, you’re going to have lack of lubrication, UTI issues, bladder problems
• Having your partner take their time and really get you to engorge so that you get plenty of blood flow in your tissue and vulva is really important
• Blood flow is as important as hormones
• A good gut microbiome is important so that you’re actually making your hormones
• The vaginal biome is a part of your overall gut biome
• Everything is just one big ecosystem and it all affects our libido because our sexual vitality is the other side of the same coin of our overall vitality

• Sex is not about doing, it’s about being
• When I teach guys that and they get out of that directed endgame mind and they just let go of the present, then they will give women the 2 things they want
• One is that they are clean and well-groomed and two is emotional connection
• That’s the energy and that’s what we want

• With this virus right now, we could have it and not know it
• So, we all going to do our part to stay in and kick this virus to the ground
• That I think is going to bring us together as a country because it is a war against an invading virus
• You got to feel what you feel. It’s scary but it’s okay but you must protect yourself and your family so the virus can’t infect other people
• One of the most important things that we could do is to hold and be held
• If you are quarantined alone, you’re going to do some things to self-nurture
• If you have a partner, do the soulmate embraces
• Soulmate embraces is a very lovely way to lie down together, clothed or in pajamas
• Arousal comes from relaxation
• The foundation of arousal is sitting in a warm bath of relaxation
• If you and he does not worry about sex and just comfort each other, you will find yourself draw sexually to your partner again because he is not pushing you to have sex, he is showing you that masculine polarity, he’s got you in his safe container, he is your protector and you’re loved

HOW CAN PEOPLE FIND YOU

• Website: betterlover.com
• Youtube: Susan Bratton – Better Lover
• Instagram: susanbratton

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