#21 Ashley James – Ending Anxiety Exercise – BONUS

ANXIETY

Anxiety is the perceived fear of something in the future that may be stressful or dangerous. Sadly, this condition affects 40 million people in the United States. And many suffer in silence.

Ashley James is an expert in the complete elimination of anxiety and has helped thousands of people over the last 12 years to free themselves of anxiety permanently!

In this episode, Ashley will walk you through a little exercise to help you relieve yourself from the feeling of anxiety.

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SHOW NOTES

• I learn this technique in 2005 and have used it with hundreds of my clients and also done this in front of large groups of people.
• I’ve never had an experience where this did not work for someone.
• And the reason why this technique works is it addresses the root causes of anxiety.
• When we think about anxiety we kind of rope it in with the idea of negative emotions. Like anger, sadness, fear, hurt or guilt.
• These are all negative emotions in the past.
• So you could think about a time that you were really angry or really sad.
  And if you could think about it now, you can still access those negative emotions.
• If you can still think a memory in the past that means it is unresolved.
• That’s why when your son or husband does something silly and may not something you should get upset about, but all of a sudden you feel overwhelmed with anger.
  Or when your driving down a highway and you listen to a song and all of a sudden you’re crying.
• It’s because over time we hold on to a serious negative emotions that are unresolved and they add up and add up until we feel them in the present.
• Anxiety is not an emotion of the past
• You cannot still feel anxious about your driver’s exam or the exam you took in high school or college
• You cannot trigger anxiety about a past even that has been completed.
• Because anxiety is an emotion of the future.
• We establish anxiety in the unconscious mind to let us know what we are focusing and we don’t want to happen
• When I say unconscious mind means you were only conscious on a small portion of your mind. The rest of or mind is beating our heart, breathing our lungs when we’re thinking about it or running our digestive system
• Our mind is doing a lot of stuff behind the scenes
• There’s a part of our brain called the reticular activating system
• And this part of our brain takes in all the information
• Your reticular activating system decides what you should be aware consciously
• When you bring your awareness to something, it then comes into your conscious
• Your reticular activating system eliminates 98% all the information coming in
• So you receive such a small fraction consciously of the world.
• There are sounds, there are feelings, there are smells that you are not consciously aware of because it doesn’t serve you at the moment
• Our reticular activating system will delete, distort and generalize information coming through our 5 senses give to us a very filtered version so a reality is different.
  So if you and I will go see the same movie, we’ll both walk away having different experience
• We all have different version of reality.
• If I have a belief that I am not good enough, then my reticular activating system will delete, distort and generalize all these information that approves that I’m good enough
• A lot of time we stop remembering the good memories if there’s someone who’ll hold on to negative beliefs
• The good new is, through a lot of techniques, you can actually clean your filter system so that your reticular activating system brings you information that support your positive beliefs
• We’ve been wired to survive and how we survive is by avoiding things that would kill us. And how would things would kill us is we focus on how it would kill us and avoid them
• The mind goes there so quickly and our hormonal system reacts
• So I’m having now a physical sensation of fear because the adrenaline is pumping because I my body’s thinking I’m going to fail in the exam. Therefor I’m going to die.
  So I got to get my adrenaline pumping so that I will survive
• And now that we’re having a physical sensation, it becomes real to us
• And we feed into it. And the more we feed into it’s likelier in that situation and it’s called target fixation.
• A great example is a first date.
  I don’t want the first date to go wrong, I don’t want this to happen and I end up acting nervous as a result and the guy goes, “she’s weird and kind of nervous.” And it becomes a bad date.
• When we use the language of “I don’t want” that is the first step in creating anxiety. Because anxiety is not a negative emotion, it is message from our unconscious mind that we’re focusing on what we don’t want.
• And it’s a physiological response to that internal stimulus which all started as a simple thought.
• Anxiety starts in your thoughts and then your body response because now you’re visualizing it
• You cannot separate the physical body from the mental body from the emotional body.
  You can analyze each one, but they all interact.
• We have to understand that the root of anxiety is not from sadness, anger, fear, hurt or guilt.
  But it is the message from the unconscious mind to focus on what we want
• I’d like you to think something about for the future and when you think about it, you start to feel anxiety right now.
• Just ask yourself on a scale of 1-10, where you are in a terms of anxiety
• What I like you to do is I’d like to float 15 minutes past the successful completion of the event from which you’re having anxiety around.
• I want you to look down on the event, see yourself on the event, 15 minutes past successful completion of the event
• Where’s your anxiety?
• You can come back to now and open your eyes.
  Most people no longer feel anxiety.
• There are some people still have anxiety, because people don’t focus on the successful completion.
• I was working with an author who is also a podcaster.
  And he had written a book and it was great and now he is coming with a second book.
  And he had tremendous anxiety and I had to do this exercise with him.
• When you have anxiety, you have trigger the autonomic sympathetic nervous system response.
  That means, the body is in fighter flight mode
• When the body is in the fighter flight mode it send blood away from your brain, away from your core, all of your organs, and immune system, which surrounds your gut, that needs blood flow.
• Those areas in your body now have minimal oxygen, minimal nutrients and minimal blood flow.
• But if you’re constantly in an anxiety about paying bill, you’re in stress mode.
  And therefor cannot think logically because your brain has shut off for survival
• There are certain times in our life that we need to react to survive.
  But unfortunately, we develop to society far quicker than our body could evolve.
  So we did never have this level of stress before
• Stress is not an emotion.
  Just imagine that stress and anxiety are just physiological. Because in today’s age, we’ve roped in mental and physiological that happens in our body with emotion.
• We have to consider that we are triggering these responses in our body because our mind does affect our body directly. And if we let our mind run away, our bodies are going to go with it.
• So the best thing that you can do is practice visualizing what you do want to happen, so that you get out of stress response. So now the blood comes back to the logic center of you brain and you can now make logic base common rational grounded decisions
• Out of this new space of being grounded will be far more effective and intelligent and allowing you to focus on what you want and move towards it
• When we don’t have something that are moving towards, that is positive, then our mind will fill in all these negatives because this is how we are wired to survive – constantly worrying.
• A negative thought takes a millisecond and very little energy to create.
  But a positive thought actually takes longer.
• If you currently have anxiety, you do this technique.
  So, you close your eyes and you go 15 minutes past the successful completion of the even.
  You look down in the event and you ask your self where’s the anxiety.
  Obviously, it’s gone. But it’s not gone and then asks your self what are anxious now.
• My goal is not only that you get rid of anxiety but also we actually go deeper that that, and rewire, and heal the part of you that led to this behavior.
• When you are in rest and digest mode, you’ve got the blood flowing into your brain, the logic goes into year brain and you can really think clearly strategically and make better choices and navigate better in your life when you’re coming from that spot.
• We did not get a manual when we were born so some people have the experience that they are just failing through life and feeling into their body and their mind that everything is just happening into them.
• Since birth, we we’ve in dated with advertising.
• If you think about for example, you’ve seen Kelloggs from the moment you were born and this brands that advertised to us since birth make us feel comfortable because if you eat food that is familiar to us, it does not raise a red flag.
• So we have to understand that if we don’t take control to our thinking, we’re letting other people control us.
• And so my entire course is basically taking your brain back.
• It’s really cool and it’s really fun. I make it really affordable.

HOMEWORK

• I want you to, in the beginning of every morning what do you do no matter what?
• So whatever it is the first thing in the morning you do, I want you to take this technique that I would teach you and do it before or right after the habit that you always do every morning.
• I also would like you to take a minute in holding up your stirring wheel.
  What I would like you to do is close your eyes and imagine the things that would happen today.
  And so whatever you know what you’re going to do today, I want you to imagine the best day that could happen at work. And imagine at the end of the day what would be saying of yourself or what would you be feeling.
• If you want to retrain your brain, is you go, “what do I want instead?”
• The body listens to our mind and so we will change physical results in life by fixating on what we want instead of what we don’t want.
• What you’re doing is you’re lining you neurology and your physiology and your emotional state with this singular goal of having what you want instead of what you don’t want.
• If you would also incorporate with some breathing and physiology just for 30 seconds and it will take you out of stress mode.
• I push myself in good way so much more when there’s a leader leading me or a health coach, because they are helping us with that mindset and helping us get out of our old thinking
• So we need help to shift our mindset to get out of the same mind that created the problem

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